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100% Positive Attitude

100% Positive Attitude

100% Positive Attitude

by Matt Booth

One of the stereotypes about having a positive attitude is that you have to be positive 100% of the time. Positive people always see the glass half full, right? This is simply not true. No one can be positive all the time. Bad stuff happens— it is called life. I speak, teach and write about attitude for a living and I’m not positive all the time, just ask my wife. It is impossible! We live in an increasingly negative world where it is becoming harder and harder to maintain a positive attitude. Being positive in a negative world is hard work. It is tough—very tough! The painful reality is that getting a positive attitude and maintaining it takes its toll on you.

I still make bad decisions at times and struggle. It’s called being human. When I’m having “one of those days”, it is very noticeable. My 5 and 3 year old sons know when Daddy is not in a good mood. When bad things happen, positive people tend to be more resilient, bounce back and get in a positive state of mind faster than others. When a positive person is suffering hardship, they try to find something good in the situation. For example, say a positive person failed an exam, instead of complaining about it, they will hit the books and make sure it doesn’t happen again.

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I know a lot of people who don’t even realize they have a bad attitude. Many negative people are the last to acknowledge something is wrong. While the effects of a negative attitude can cause pain and suffering, learning to recognize when you are having “one of those days” is the first step toward getting back on track. Here are a few steps you can take to protect yourself.

1. Accept that bad things happen. Bad stuff, believe it or not, happens to positive people just as much if not more than it happens to negative people.

2. Be a survivor, not a victim. Someone with a victim mentality lives in the past. Positive people believe what they’re experiencing now is nothing compared to what they’ve already survived. Don’t sit around wondering when things will get back to normal; accept that this is the new normal.

3. Find allies. Hang out with others who are positive most of the time.

4. Prioritize self-care. It is the old oxygen mask theory. You must help yourself first so you are able to help those around you. Often, the difference between people who are positive most of the time and those who are negative most of the time is their resiliency skills and ability to manage their own anxiety.

Nobody can be positive 100% of the time. It is OK to have “one of those days”. It is not OK to have five years in a row worth of “one of those days”. Being positive most of the time is extremely hard work. It is, however, work worth doing

Mattitude Quote

“When failure becomes your friend, quitting becomes your enemy.” — Matt Booth

Matt Booth, the attitude expert, is an engaging speaker. He demonstrates and delivers a common sense approach to a positive attitude. To find out how Matt can help you or your organization, connect with him today at mattbooth.com.